Email to Kyle; Email to Yvette
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xp_communicationTo: [Gibney, Kyle]
From: [Amaquelin, Crystal]
Subject: [Sunday's journal posts]
Kyle,
Obviously, I have upset you greatly, and for that I apologize. Slang is not offensive to my culture, and although it may surprise you to learn this, I have used calão, slang, myself. For the most part, I choose not to, and I do not always see the point to certain uses of it, and therein lies the difference between what I was trying to say on the journals and what you, Forge, and Jennie appeared to think that I meant.
I know what slang is. I know what curse words are. I am perfectly capable of looking up definitions of words if I do not understand what someone is saying. However, this does not mean that I will then choose to use such words and phrases. Knowing what something is, or how to do something, does not mean that I have to like it. You like to use slang. In most cases, I do not. Fine. We are each individuals with our own preferences, including the way we speak and write.
As for everyone at this school being accepting…really? I do not believe that I really wish to get into this subject with you, as I will probably end up saying things that I will regret later. Unlike others, I do not want to drag up things from the past. That was then and this is now. Everyone makes mistakes; what is the point of repeatedly going over them and holding them against someone, especially when it is clear that a person has changed?
You are right…this is supposed to be a place of acceptance, yet that is not what everyone experiences upon their arrival here. Apparently, although everyone here is supposed to be accepting of others, this acceptance only applies to those who fit a certain image and/or do everything they can to “fit in.” I am not going to change myself so that I can feel that I belong here. If people wish to accept me for who and what I am, fine. If not, this is also fine as well. Little comments matter. You might think that they are small and meaningless, but as the weeks and months pass they build up into something much more.
Please look at what you wrote on Sunday, turn it around, and try to look at it from my point of view. I am not you or anyone else here; I am me.
Sincerely,
Crystal
To: [Yvette]
From: [Crystal]
Subject: [My apologies]
Yvette,
I would like to let you know that I am truly sorry for what happened on your journal. What people said to each other there had absolutely nothing to do with you or Saturday’s snowball fight. I am glad that my sister had fun outside.
I am sorry that I did not take part in the snowball fight and I would very much like to be able to join you the next time that there is an opportunity to play in the snow.
Crystal
From: [Amaquelin, Crystal]
Subject: [Sunday's journal posts]
Kyle,
Obviously, I have upset you greatly, and for that I apologize. Slang is not offensive to my culture, and although it may surprise you to learn this, I have used calão, slang, myself. For the most part, I choose not to, and I do not always see the point to certain uses of it, and therein lies the difference between what I was trying to say on the journals and what you, Forge, and Jennie appeared to think that I meant.
I know what slang is. I know what curse words are. I am perfectly capable of looking up definitions of words if I do not understand what someone is saying. However, this does not mean that I will then choose to use such words and phrases. Knowing what something is, or how to do something, does not mean that I have to like it. You like to use slang. In most cases, I do not. Fine. We are each individuals with our own preferences, including the way we speak and write.
As for everyone at this school being accepting…really? I do not believe that I really wish to get into this subject with you, as I will probably end up saying things that I will regret later. Unlike others, I do not want to drag up things from the past. That was then and this is now. Everyone makes mistakes; what is the point of repeatedly going over them and holding them against someone, especially when it is clear that a person has changed?
You are right…this is supposed to be a place of acceptance, yet that is not what everyone experiences upon their arrival here. Apparently, although everyone here is supposed to be accepting of others, this acceptance only applies to those who fit a certain image and/or do everything they can to “fit in.” I am not going to change myself so that I can feel that I belong here. If people wish to accept me for who and what I am, fine. If not, this is also fine as well. Little comments matter. You might think that they are small and meaningless, but as the weeks and months pass they build up into something much more.
Please look at what you wrote on Sunday, turn it around, and try to look at it from my point of view. I am not you or anyone else here; I am me.
Sincerely,
Crystal
To: [Yvette]
From: [Crystal]
Subject: [My apologies]
Yvette,
I would like to let you know that I am truly sorry for what happened on your journal. What people said to each other there had absolutely nothing to do with you or Saturday’s snowball fight. I am glad that my sister had fun outside.
I am sorry that I did not take part in the snowball fight and I would very much like to be able to join you the next time that there is an opportunity to play in the snow.
Crystal
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Reply to Crystal
Date: 2006-12-11 07:06 pm (UTC)From: [Petrovic, Yvette]
Subject: Re: My apologies
Dear Miss Crystal,
Thank you for being writing to me. I am being upset by what is happening on my journal, but Mr. Sefton is explaining it is not my fault. I am being worried that when I am playing, people are being upset. Mr. Sefton is saying that it is because they are being worried about other things. I am hoping you are not being worried any more.
I am being confused that playing in the snow is a strange thing, but I am remembering that not everyone is being a same. Sometimes, I am finding America is being the very strange place. If you are wanting to come play with us, I am being very happy to invite you. The building the snowmen is being very fun, and is not making you to run as much as the snowball fight is being. And there is the hot chocolate after the snow, for when we are being cold.
I hope to be seeing you a next time!
From,
Yvette.
PS: Please to be excusing the bad English. I am being trying hard to learn him, but he is being very hard sometimes.
Reply to Yvette
Date: 2006-12-11 09:59 pm (UTC)From: [Crystal]
Yvette,
I am very sorry for upsetting you. No, I was not upset by the fact that you played, and again, I am sorry that this is what you thought. It was not the idea of playing in the snow that was strange to me; it was the fact that my sister was playing in the snow that intrigued me.
I look forward to building a snowman with you.
There is no need for you to apologize for the fact that you are still learning how to speak English. You have an excellent command of the language already.
Crystal